Lower the bar…. Or don’t? Sometimes (or maybe often) we think that everything has to be a perfect 10. If it is less, it is not worthy to share or even say or do. That’s a pattern that, if not aware of, can rule your complete creative process. As a result, you’ll never start something and you’ll never finish anything that you did start. No fun there…
The root belief
One of the root beliefs of this approach is that you think you have to be somewhere else already to become who you want to be. In other words, now is not good enough. When in fact, where you are now is the perfect place to start. Even the only place to start for you to work on something that is very important to you. To clarify, read in this post possible reasons for this pattern of wanting perfection (and more on that topic).
Lose it forever?
I think it is not something you can lose forever (at least, not if you aren’t enlightened 😉 ). I think it is a pattern that comes and goes. Sometimes it is more difficult to see it as a pattern. Especially if it takes over.
Choice to do it differently
When you become aware of doing this, it creates a choice of doing it differently. Lower the bar is a very good solution by leveling your expectations to what is real here. In other words, we often have these bizarre huge expectations from ourselves of where we should be already. By expecting that from ourselves, we create an image that we have to live up to. I believe it has nothing to do with us; or who we are or where we are now; and what we can do now. Nothing wrong with wanting the best, but it can slow us down.
And, as you can read here, wanting creates this gap of “not good enough now”. It is about believing you’ll get to where you want to be. Believing takes your attention away from the future to create right now. More on that in that previous post. I also share another definition of perfection and how you can reach it without getting trapped in this pattern.
So, lower it or don’t?
In this post, by dr. Alice Boyes, you can read benefits of this pattern and that it isn’t even bad to have it. One line out of her post can really set the tone: Perfectionism is a poor master but a good slave. It can benefit us creatively, she also says in her blog:
There are downsides to perfectionism, but also benefits. One largely unrecognized upside is how it boosts creativity. This happens in four ways: when perfectionists are bothered by evidence that runs contrary to their own or consensus opinion, so explore it; when their desire to understand everything pushes them to seek out new information; when their stubbornness leads to an innovative solution; when your competitiveness makes you hustle to keep up with others.
So, bottom-line… Use it in your advantage and if necessary… Lower that bar 😉
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